John Wender is a New York architect who frequently engages in illicit sex play such as BDSM and objectification. He enjoys degrading women, violence towards women sexually not limited to but including medical play, daddy/daughter scenarios, fisting, teacher/student scenarios, bondage, over the knee, rope play, dominance, breast torture, water sports and scat, rape play, pony play, forced orgasm, spanking, whipping, paddling and flogging, gagging, strap-on play, wax play and auto-erotic asphyxia and strangulation. John Wender enjoys age play and borderline pedophilia. He enjoys his sub to be collared and engages in strappado bondage.
He enjoys pleasure derived from causing pain and degradation to his subject. John Wender specifically enjoys the humiliation of a woman sexually and will frequently force himself on her in a violent and controlling way.
He enjoys voyeurism and has been known to be involved in the NYC sex scene/clubs/parties both as a participant and a voyeur.
He frequents sites such as Kink.com, FetLife.com, AdultFriendFinder.com, Alt.com, PlentyOfFish.com, OKCupid.com and Craigslist.org.
He uses these sites to find willing subjects for his abuse.
In September 2012 he subscribed to several YouTube channels demonstrating knot tying and rope play for BDSM activities.
John Wender was participating in this lifestyle through his marriage and fueling it by his cocaine addiction.